Hello beautiful people. I hope you had a good enough weekend. It was such a lovely time on this blog last week. It makes me look forward to sharing more things with you this week. I know it’s going to be a great week because we are going to make it one and we have God to help us as well.
I told you some weeks back that I would share two excerpts from my book, ‘It’s Your Life to Lead’. I already shared one. And as promised, I have the second one here. This is a snippet from Chapter 9 which is the final chapter.
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This life is yours. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well. Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly. Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy. ~ Susan Polis Schutz
When I was taking driving lessons, the tutor was always beside me to guide me. So I felt a bit confident that I wouldn’t kill myself or anyone else. Figured he did not want to die yet so he would make sure he did not. However, there was a day a change happened. He got out of the car and told me to drive. I thought he was joking, until he gave me the serious look and told me not to be scared.
“Are you kidding me? This guy does not like me …. he wants me to kill myself, and he conveniently got out of the car.” Those were some of the thousand thoughts that ran through my mind. Honestly, I felt I couldn’t do it. I was used to relaxing and just listening to him talk. (Most days, I was too distracted by my phone and the things happening around me).
I have had to lean on him for a while. How would I do it on my own now? I tried to do the ‘big puppy doll’ face thing that works on my dad, but it didn’t work on him. He said to me, “I can only stay with you for so long. At the end of the day, you will have to be able to drive the car alone. Why not start now because I feel you are ready.” I rolled my eyes in my mind and decided to drive. I was losing control and by that time, I was palpitating. He quickly came to my rescue and he had more words to say. “You are the one driving the car and not the other way around. You control it where you want it to go’. Friend, life is no different.
The thing is, you cannot control something if you are not aware that you have the power to. Sometimes, we forget we are in control of our lives and sadly, some have never even known they are in control. It might be because you are so used to leaning on someone and being told what to do that you have never had the opportunity to think for yourself. It might be as a result of debt and the person or people you owe act like they are in control of your life and at some point, you have stopped fighting and just became their puppet. It might be because of a misguided conception of love. You stay in the relationship despite the abuse, and relinquish control to love and abuse. It might be because you think you owe your parents so much for taking care of you and sending you to school (Although we owe them a lot, I do not know what I will do if God did not give me the kind of parents I have). You let them control your life with you having little or no say. It can be for various reasons not excluding sickness or disease. You just let that thing or someone direct your life and you follow their road map not yours.
Darling, It is all in your power to take back control because your life should answer to you, not the other way round. No matter what goes on or what you are faced with, you have the power to decide to lead your life.
Fortitude … determination in the face of difficulties is a choice you can make. Be a mountain that cannot be moved when it comes to what you believe in.
It is in your power not to give up when it gets tough and hope seems extinct. Never stop trying and do not ever be afraid to try again. Insanity, they say, is ‘Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result’. Do not be insane in that sense, but be insane by being resilient. If you tried before and it did not work out, try again not by doing the same thing, but by thinking outside the box.
Be like a coach that re-strategises his tactics if his team is losing. He reshuffles players, removes some and puts others. Sit back and think again. Ask for opinions and help, and then try again. Discouragement will come in. When it comes, take time out and go to a place (mentally, physically or spiritually) that relaxes you and start again.
It’s all in your power hon. May you have the courage to lead your life.
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