Lessons from Maami

Hello guys! Happy new month to you all.  I woke up with joy in my soul this morning and I had a beautiful bathroom moment with God just thanking him for Who he is and all he has blessed me with. We should be grateful that he has kept us even though we are surrounded by danger. His mercy has kept you and it has kept me. So you should really be happy that you are seeing a new day in the 9th month and not just pass it on as any other day. 
Some minutes into the new month, Ayokunle Falomo, a beautiful dreamer and dream pursuer who has through his writing encouraged me to dream and set my dreams in motion, sent me a message on Twitter. He said such kind, kind words to me that made me feel like I’m on the right track with this blog. For your words of Kindness Ayo, I thank you. May the presence of the Lord not depart from us this month. Have a September you will be most grateful for darlings and have a good Monday :* 

For a long time, I wasn’t a fan of the Nigerian Movie Industry because of the low quality of movies they produced and the movies with no lessons embedded in them. So I would feel irritated when I was watching TV and my mother decided she wanted to watch TV with me. That was because she would play the guilt card and make me change the station to African Magic. After enduring it for a while, I would walk away and she would sleep off because watching movies isn’t really her thing. But I recently started finding myself watching Nigerian movies and this is because of the onset of ‘new Nollywood’ as I would like to call it with people like Uche Jumbo, Desmond Elliot, Funke Akindele amongst others at its fore front. I have watched some movies like ‘mercy , ‘MR AND MRS’ (can’t remember some others) that have made quite a lot of sense although there is still a lot of room for improvement. You can’t help but love Funke Akindele.

funke akindeleI fell in love with her after watching Jenifa not only because it was funny but because she was very flexible. Then I went on to watch some of her other movies and I found myself interested in this actress who manages to outdo herself every time. Then I watched MAAMI. The movie was hyped and though I didn’t find it to be all that, I once again couldn’t help but commend Funke Akindele for her acting skills and I loved the relationship between her and her son in the movie. I found two major lessons that Funke Akindele kind of drummed in her son’s ear and that’s what I want to share with you today.

mami fearDon’t show fear even when you are afraid…

“Bran thought about it. ‘Can a man still be brave if he’s afraid?’ ‘That is the only time a man can be brave,’ his father told him”~ George R.R. Martin, A game of thrones.

I am not really a fan of action movies but there are some action movies that even someone that watches only romantic movies anticipate its release date at the cinema. Some of such movies are the James Bond movies. The guy is a boss. There is just this thing about him. I will like to think he must have been afraid during some of his encounters but he never showed it. The way he even called his name commanded respect and fear. ‘I am Bond. James Bond’. You’ve got to call your name with respect. Honestly, the way you call your name when asked goes a long way in showing how confident you are and your handshake also matters. Topic for another.

Maami told her son after they were robbed in a taxi that ‘you should never show fear when you are afraid’. I guess she said that because when you show fear, it makes those opposing you more confident because they feel you won’t bother to attack back. So involuntarily, you have agreed for them to do whatever with you. So even when you are faced with a gun (God forbid), don’t shake and don’t beg. Stare that idiot in the face the same way you have to stare your problem in the face (let’s assume the problem has a face on) and show it you won’t back down because you know you will overcome it and come out as a stronger person. So stare that attacker in the face and reach into your bag, acting like you want to bring out your own weapon (Okay don’t act like you want to bring something out. That might heighten the situation). Just act calm and tough even if you are peeing in your pant. Well only be confident like that if you know you have Jesus’ backing. If not, it’s not Mayowa’s fault if anything happens. Same way you should use the ‘DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM’ line if Nigerian police should stop you. I am yet to use that line and I hope to use it soon because of the amazing stories I have heard from guys that have used it.

maami 2Kindness is a baton that when passed to you, should be passed to others.

“Have you had a kindness shown? Pass it on; ‘Twas not given for thee alone, pass it on; let it travel down the years, let it wipe another’s tears, ‘Til in Heaven the deed appears- pass it on”~Henry Burton.

I love watching little kids because you just learn a lot from them if you have an open mind and you can see past the dirt and stress that accompanies them. There was a day I was watching two little kids and I actually got lost in their world though I was meant to be doing something serious. One of the girls was given cookies by the mum. He took one out of the cookies and went to give his friend. She took some. I found it fascinating that the little girl gave two out of the cookies in her hands to a little girl that was watching both of them, obviously wanting some but not communicating it because she has a Nigerian mother and you know the eyes Nigerian mothers are specialized in giving. I am guessing the other girl was a stranger. I understand giving and being kind to your friend, but to a complete stranger, that’s a bit rare and though they were young, they knew how to pass the baton of kindness although they didn’t know that was what they were doing.

I started believing we are connected as humans and the series ‘touch’ strengthened my belief. What you are doing in maamu kindnessNigeria can affect someone in United Kingdom. So please don’t withhold the baton. Pass it to someone and keep passing it because you might never know whose life you are saving just because you passed the baton. The amazing thing is, the baton of kindness doesn’t even have to be money if your excuse is you don’t have much. It can be by giving your best. By being honest; by giving someone a smile and a hug; by giving a listening ear and being a solution provider. Everything you do matters and nothing you do is small. So pass that baton on and watch it come back to you in many folds.

Have a beautiful week and if you have watched ‘MAAMI’, please do share your thoughts on the movie and share your thoughts on this post and your encounters with the Nigerian police (if you have any).

  • Oyindamola
    September 2, 2014

    haha! Mayowa oh! I should look at the gun without flinching. Well, that’s actually a bright idea; showing unwavering courage that might instill fear in the person bearing the gun. ‘Why isn’t she reacting? Doesn’t she think I can actually kill her?’ because most times, they do not believe they can kill so we have to show them that we have as much disbelief in their killing ability as they do. They’ll eventually back out or not. Anyway, it’s easier said than done. I pray God does give us courage in perilous times.

    • Oluwamayowa Depo Oyedokun
      September 2, 2014

      LOL Oyinda. You’ve got Jesus, stare that thing/person right in the face, eye – ball to eye- ball. But don’t provoke o.

  • Diamond digger Cheats
    October 31, 2014

    It’s nearly impossible to find experienced people
    for this subject, however, you seem like you know what you’re talking about!

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