This is for us.

We’re not anti-social; we’re just differently social. – Susan Cain.

‘How are you doing?’ he asked her though they had not spoken in years

‘I am fine’, she replied rather reluctantly. She wondered why he was messaging her.

‘So do you party a lot? He further questioned.

‘Err… No’, she said rolling her eyes in her mind’s eye.

‘Why would you message someone after a long while and ask the stupid question’, she thought and decided against talking to him in the future.

‘So what do you now do for fun?’ he interrupted her thoughts

She read the message and left it unanswered.

‘What a stupid statement’, I said with irritation when she told me about it

‘What did he mean by what do you now do for fun?’

‘Does it mean your life is boring if you don’t party? See me see trouble o’,

I said to my friends being dramatic in the Nigerian way

So this is for us


For those of us that will rather stay home than go out to party

People like me that prefer silence to noise

People like me that will rather watch Grey’s Anatomy than dress up for a party we know we will later regret going for.

Atimes we do dress up and go clubbing because our friends won’t let us rest,

They will keep going on and on about how we need to chill out sometimes

‘Excuse me, I do chill out a lot infact’, I would protest

And they would roll their eyes.

‘Reading a novel or watching a movie alone like a sad girl in your room is not chilling’, they would say with irritation

But who says it is not chilling.

I enjoy my own company!

I enjoy my own type of music

So you think I am a ‘kill joy’ because 30 minutes into a party,

I give you signs that I am ready to go.

Can you really blame me?

Pretending I am enjoying the party saps my energy

I would rather have a small gathering with friends that I know

Than go out to a crowded place with drunk people

And guys trying to grab my ass or boob

I can even go out with friends and strangers, just not a crowd

Just not strangers that stink and want to ‘tap that’.

So not drinking beer and spirit makes me a dulling babe?

You don’t say!

Darling, my taste buds just like sweet things.

It likes red wine though.

So this is for us


This is for us that don’t feel insulted when we are referred to as introverts

We don’t see it as a curse and one of the worst things that can happen to a man

Because we understand being an introvert does not mean we are sad or we don’t have friends

It doesn’t mean we don’t like going out

It just means we like existing in a depth of solitude a lot

It means we choose who and what we spend our time on because we know how valuable time is

It just means we don’t need to have a large circle of friends to feel alive

Just the right number of friends is enough

It means we like doing things that are meaningful

We will rather have deep conversations than shallow ones,

And this doesn’t make us snobbish or old.

It doesn’t mean, like I sometimes do that we don’t spend time with friends talking about things that add no meaning to our lives

It doesn’t mean we are always serious people,

And we don’t know how to live and laugh

It doesn’t mean we don’t sometimes listen to noise that people call music,

when we just need to let loose and dance

We just prefer the kind of songs that make sense like Iyeoka’s music *(you should really listen to she doesn’t know her beauty).

Being an introvert doesn’t mean we are boring people

We can actually be very crazy people, dance shamelessly even on the road,

Laugh about absolutely nothing; make up silly jokes like my friend, Derin

It just means we are more comfortable around friends and family.

Not sharing our lives publicly doesn’t mean we are secretive

It just means we like our privacy

We don’t have to tell the world when we want to use the toilet,

Or when we have a new boo

So this is for us

*introverts 2

We have to remember to come out of our comfort zone once in a while,

Go out with strangers and just chill

For the introverts out there, wishing they were extroverts

You have to remember you are you,

And being an introvert is not the worst thing in the world

Infact, it is a blessing

So build your self esteem and be comfortable being who you are

For others that think being an introvert is a disorder and a social wrong,

Allow us occupy our space peacefully.

Same way we allow you occupy yours peacefully

Allow us see the world in the beautiful way that we do.

Enjoy the peace that comes with silence,

though our minds are always bustling with ideas.

P,S :You should listen to ‘The power of Introverts’ by Susan Cain.

To find out more interesting things about introverts, check this website

  • abey
    January 5, 2015

    I am so relating to this I wish I could kiss you right now,thanks for sharing this dear!

  • oyinda
    January 5, 2015

    Nice lol. I testify to that. Actually, I think I’m more of an ambivert but I still have the intro side so; yes, it’s not lame to enjoy solitude sometimes, or to think about life or to not feel compelled to share my life history on social media or to not feel comfortable in the midst of total strangers. I still like my loud music though and I do love adventure sometimes.
    Introversion rocks. ;p

    • Oluwamayowa Depo Oyedokun
      January 5, 2015

      Lmao! Introverts love adventures and they sometimes like loud music. I listen to your noise with you sometimes. We just prefer the ones that make so much sense without noise. Check your snapchat Oyinda

  • Moyosore
    January 15, 2015

    ugh! Mayowa you hit the nail on the perfect spot! Like I don’t even know how to answer the question of “what do you do for fun?” When my best turn up move is being on my bed!

    I sometimes get excited about dressing up to go out and that’s because of my passion for fashion but 5 mins out of my house I’m day dreaming about how sweet my bed is.
    I’d rather not have a conversation with you if we both won’t gain valuable lessons.
    Okay let me not start my own blog post but this right here describes it all. Like knoweth like

    • Oluwamayowa Depo Oyedokun
      January 15, 2015

      Lol! Moyo, like knoweth like indeed. There is just this amazing thing about being on your bed rather than being anywhere else. If I had a choice, I wouldn’t leave the comfort of my house most days.

  • Frances
    February 15, 2015

    My goodness! You just hit the spot perfectly! Bless you forever and ever and everr!!!!!

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